1. We don't have enough annoying strangers in our lives. We block annoying people, and lose ability to handle annoyance. Find annoying people and refresh your coping skills.
2. Don't forget to keep around a few annoying friends. It will sharpen your skills in dealing with incompatible people, and help you function in the world with people not like you.
3. Texting is for thumb people. Studies show that over 40% of what you write in emails is misunderstood.
4. Online friends don't exits in 3D real world. Only 7% of inter-personal exchange takes place through words, the rest, a mere 93% is non-verbal. We know that we exist, and who we are by seeing ourselves in the mirrors of other people's eyes.
5. No real friends, no spontenous criticism, and we miss it. Non-direct forms of communication are a great way to avoid being honest, by having the time to choose and craft words. We need quirks, humiliations and vulnerabilities that only real friendships provide.
6. Media Negativity Does Affect Us. After constant negative spins on just about everything, we feel at odds with the rest of the world. Like Mark Twain said, turn off all the news, and be happy. Almost no news will really affect your life, and what does affect, you won't be able to change anyway.
7. We feel less because we have less (friends). All these on-line friends don't place demands on us. BUT, we were wired to help and take care of others. We are a product of social interactions, so we need to be connected in real life, not through flat-screen monitors. Find a way to do something simple, but physical to help someone else. It really works.
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